Health and Wellness

Tips to help improve your Self-Confidence

*Pantene has sponsored this self confidence tips post, but all thoughts and opinions of my own.

Having confidence doesn’t come easy, I believe it is something everyone will feel depleted of at some point. Especially after having 4 kids, you naturally have physical insecurities that can open those feelings of not being confident in yourself. One thing about confidence is that it can be so liberating, and honestly make you feel like you can do/complete anything!

My mom is a huge reason I have the confidence I do. She poured into me growing up, and this lead to the self-care practices I have in place today. I was often the minority in school, and in elementary I did not see others who looked like me. During these times, I would get questions about why my hair is the way that it is. I remember when this happened, my mom would pour into me. Reminding me how beautiful I am. Growing up, she was always my number one cheerleader, driving force and reminder of what I am capable of.

She helped me understand who I was, and why I should be proud of where I have come from. My “Hairitage” is Nigerian and Irish. My grandfather is Nigerian, and my grandmother is half Irish. A diverse background, and I am proud of where I have come from.

I am excited to partner with Pantene to share a product that embraces every person’s “Hairitage.” I was challenged to spend an hour of my day to really practice self-care while I try the Pantene Nutrient Blends Collection. I have been using their Miracle Moisture Boost with Rose Water line and am loving the shampoo and conditioner along with the hair treatment. This line is meant to soothe and hydrate dry hair and is free of sulfates, parabens, dyes and mineral oil. This line is also stemmed from Pantene’s Nutrient Blends Collection where the ingredients are inspired by cultures from all around the world. You can try the Miracle Moisture Boost Collection HERE, available at Target!

Have you struggled with not having a lot of confidence? I HAVE! Whether it’s rooted from physical insecurities, professional, or social, you CAN overcome it. The steps to overcome low confidence simply starts with making a choice to believe in yourself and love who you are.

I wanted to share some simple ways I worked to become more confident in myself as these are ways you can practice self-care.

Self Confidence Tips

1. Push that self-doubt to the back. I know this is easier said than done, but it’s starts with just one thought that you are enough that can lead to a series of more confidence-boosting thoughts.

2. Establish a workout regime. Getting back in the groove of working out can be absolutely tough to do. I understand that. However, if I have not worked out, I feel sluggish and not like myself. And on top of that, it doesn’t help me achieve my fitness goals, which means I am not working on my physical appearance. After I have been on a regular workout regimen, I feel great about the way I look, and feel I can conquer more.

3. Surround yourself with people who push you. It’s so important to have a solid foundation around you. People who you not only trust, but who want to see you win. I’m not talking about just a YES person, because I don’t need you to say yes if it really should be a no. I’m talking about being around people who have visions, goals, and actually take action on them. If you are around people who are never achieving anything or complain constantly, consider if that is the right person to have in your corner. That energy transfers.

This even correlates with social media. I personally am very cautious with who I follow on social media. For example, I don’t follow a ton of celebrities as my life does not relate to them at all. I typically only follow ones I feel I have something in common with. I follow Tamera Mowry-Housley, because let’s be real, I’ve always felt like I was her sister, haha. Take a look through the list of people you are following. Do they make you feel good? Are you comparing yourself to them? Maybe it’s time to click the unfollow button for some of these people.

4. Don’t continue with comparison. Stop comparing yourself to others. Whether it’s the way you look, their successes, etc. Everyone has a journey, everyone has pitfalls, and what may be their weakness is your strength. I stopped comparing others’ lives to mine a long time ago. Partly because the blueprint of my life is not the same as that other woman who is super successful. As difficult as it may be, the person’s life that you aspire to have has struggles too. So be happy to be you!

5. Revamp your wardrobe. Is your self-confidence down because you are wearing frumpy clothes, or even clothes that are not flattering for your shape? I know for me, I wear clothes for the shape I am in now. I don’t squeeze myself in a size 4, because I am not there. Also, as a busy mom of 4, it’s easy to grab an old t-shirt and mom shorts and run errands. But how does that make you feel? I found simple ways to elevate my wardrobe. Still comfortable but makes me feel good about the way I look.

If you are struggling with low confidence due to physical appearance, consider evaluating your wardrobe and see if it is uplifting you!

6. Take action on your life. I say this so much and I really mean it. I don’t root my level of confidence in success. However, it does feel great to reach personal goals. I recommend setting goals for yourself if there is something you wish to accomplish. Reaching a goal makes you feel great about yourself. It’s not enough just to have goals but you must take action on them.

7. Get a makeover/go to a spa. Do you feel in a rut with the way you look, and feel it is affecting your confidence? Go get glammed up for a change. Sometimes you need to really get jazzy to really remind yourself that you still got it.

8. Take a self-assessment. The only way I could get to the root of what caused lack of confidence was to take some time to self-evaluate what was blocking me from feeling confident. Be honest with yourself. It helps with your individual growth. And ultimately, if you can’t even assess your own self, how will you ever be receptive when people in your circle have tips to help you develop.

9. Relax. Stop overthinking everything, because in reality half that the stuff you cannot change!

10. Embrace your imperfections. I wish I could say I’m perfect, but I’M NOT! (I am sure those are the words my husband has been waiting to hear, haha!) I think when my confidence really grew was as I got older and realized I am imperfectly perfect. This is who I am! Yes, I can continue to develop and strengthen myself in certain areas, but ultimately, I will still be me. Once I truly accepted that, I realized how much being me was a great thing!

Remember to make a choice to push that self-doubt away! Take action on your goals, and wear what makes you feel and look amazing!

Don’t forget to try the Pantene Nutrient Blends Collection here and discover what’s good with your personal Hairitage and your self-care routine!

Are there any self confidence tips you love and live by?  Let me know in a comment below!