Girl Boss Tips

Tips To Help The Working Mom Thrive

 

I am a working mom in every sense of the word in this season of life.  I work in my corporate HR job and I run my blog which has flourished into a thriving business. Being a working mom of 3 is not easy, especially since this busy season of life came unexpectedly.

To give a quick back story early 2018 I just decided to come back blogging after not blogging my 3rd son’s entire pregnancy.  When I came back to blogging I decided I wanted it to show my entire life not just style.  Once I did that my blog just took off honestly.  So here I am today with a blog that has turned from only being a hobby to business and being an HR leader, trying raise 3 kids. I often get asked how do I do it all? Well it ain’t easy and takes a village.

 

In this season of life I have taken a second to just reflect at all that God is providing to our family and the opportunities.  To be honest I asked Him, why did you choose me for this?  How am I worthy of having not 1 awesome career but TWO?! It makes me not want to fail with that fact that He chose me specifically for this journey. I am busy but grateful.  My goal is to connect and relate to as many women as possible and help y’all all WIN! Whether that is winning in parenting, finances, wardrobe, shopping a deal, blogging. Anything! I want the experiences I share to help inspire and motivate you to think if Taryn can do it, I CAN DO IT! And I will keep doing it as long as God see’s fit.

Anyways…I digress…the point of this blog was not to give y’all a testimony haha…it is to give fellow working mom tips on how to thrive at being a working mom.  Let me also say this disclaimer, as I know I have some stay at home moms as well that may read this.  Y’all are equally rockstars! I know being a SAHM is not easy and takes a tremendous amount of balance and patience.

 

From one working mom to another I wanted to share some tips that has helped me manage being awesome at my mom and corporate life:

• Create a schedule – This has been crucial for me because running your own business it can get easy to never stop working.  I found that creating a schedule even at night has held me accountable and not overwork myself.  It was especially important because it is easy to get busy with dinner and playing that you don’t sit down and go through homework etc.  It doesn’t have to be a strict schedule just create a general outline of the evenings to keep you capitalizing on your time.
• Spend 1-on-1 time with kids – With life’s busyness it can get easy to always clump all your children together.  make time with each child to connect with them and see how their week is going.  It has helped me tremendously with learning more about my children.  Our weeks can be a blur so it is important to slow down and show each child that no matter how busy life is there is always time to spend with each child.
• Don’t over commit – I had to say this to myself a million times, because I can sometimes be a busy body.  If we have a block of time that is free as my hubby would say “I am sure Taryn will find a way to fill it.”  I had to stop doing that because it was making it where it interrupted with our family time. You are working all day allow yourself time to have free time.
• Be present at school – I put the children’s activities in my planner months in advance.  Although I work about 25 minutes from the school.  It’s important that I pick some activities to be present at.  Its good that your children see you are still involved even though you work.  Now I can’t make it to everything, but the big events I do make sure I block off time and be present.  It means so much when my children see me at their school.  Even something as simple as me picking them up by surprise.
• Self-care is a must – It is easy to have the mom guilt set in and you feel like because you work there isn’t time for you.  Please get rid of that mentality.  There is always time for you.  When I feel and look good, I parent even better.  You should be carving self-care time out regularly!
• Outsource – If you work in corporate you probably are working 40-50 hours a week, your kids are probably involved in sports or school activities, the family has to eat.  That leave little to no time for you to even half think about the house.  I have taken somethings off my plate in this season of life, and it has been so liberating.  I know have a maid come 2 times a month PLUS we send our laundry out to be cleaned weekly. It has given me so much extra time to spend with my children.  If your budget will allow I will highly suggest looking into doing it even monthly! It has been a game changer!
• Call in the support – I got rid of that mentality that if I do it all it will make me a better mom and wife.  It doesn’t all it does is run you down to the ground mentally and physically.  Each member in our family contributes to the chores and responsibility in the house.  Some of us may not even get home from work until after 6, that leaves limited time to accomplish everything.  Give each of your children chores and divide the duties up with your husband.
• Meal prep – It’s pivotal on Sundays that I sit down and plan out the food for the week.  The crockpot has been my friend because I can throw the food in their in the morning before work and simply serve the food later.  Side note: To help with saving time I also almost always do grocery pick up so I don’t have to spend hours on a limited weekend grocery shopping.
• Sleep is a necessity – I have a hard stop that after the kids go to bed and even if I don’t get everything done I shut it down.  I won’t neglect sleep.  Of course there may be one offs if I am on a deadline here and there, but majority of the time I stick to my bedtime.  It allows me to be a better at my job and home!
• Family night – We do this weekly it could be us going to grab a bite to eat or having a game night.  Work can be stressful and the best thing you can do is have a fun family night to unwind!

 

Stay encouraged mama! You won’t be able to do any and everything, and that is ok! Don’t beat yourself up and remember that working doesn’t take anything away from you being an awesome mom! Hopefully some of these tips will help you have a successful week!